THINGS I'VE LEARNED

I've learned - That you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.

I've learned - that no matter how much I care, some people just don't care back.

I've learned - that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.

I've learned - that it's not what you have in your life but who you have in your life that counts.

I've learned - that you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes. After that, you'd better know something.

I've learned - that it's not what happens to people that's important. It's what they do about it.

I've learned - that you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.

I've learned - that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.

I've learned - that either you control your attitude or it controls you.

I've learned - that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.

I've learned - that learning to forgive takes practice.

I've learned - that money is a lousy way of keeping score.

I've learned - that sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.

I've learned - that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.

I've learned - that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them and less to do with how many years you've lived.

I've learned - that you should never tell a child their dreams are unlikely or outlandish. Few things are more humiliating, and what a tragedy it would be if they believed you.

I've learned - that no matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.

I've learned - that it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others.

Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.

I've learned - that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.

l've learned - that just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other and just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do.

I've learned - that sometimes you have to put the individual ahead of their actions.

I've learned - that you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.

I've learned - that no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt and you will hurt in the process.

I've learned - that there are many ways of falling and staying in love.

I've learned - that your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don't even know you.

I've learned - that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.

I've learned - that writing, as well as talking, can ease emotional pains.

I've learned - that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.

I've learned - that the people you care most about in life are taken from you too soon.

Listening

Listening is a magnetic and strange thing, a creative force...When we are listened to, it creates us, makes us unfold and expand. Ideas actually begin to grow within us and come to life...When we listen to people there is an alternating current, and this recharges us so that we never get tired of each other...and it is this little creative fountain inside us that begins to spring and cast up new thoughts and unexpected laughter and wisdom. ...Well, it is when people really listen to us, with quiet facinated attention, that the little fountain begins to work again, to accelerate in the most surprising way.

--Brenda Ueland

LIFE LESSON

I will never forget what my old headmaster told taught me. Normally when you
are only 15 years of age you do not remember most of the things that are
preached by your teachers. But, this particular story is one such lesson
that I will never forget. Every time I drift off course, I get reminded of
this story.

It was a normal Monday morning at an assembly, and he was addressing the
students on important things in life and about committing ourselves to what
is important to us. This is how the story went:

An old man lived in a certain part of London, and he would wake up every
morning and go to the subway. He would get the train right to Central
London, and then sit at the street corner and beg. He would do this every
single day of his life. He sat at the same street corner and begged for
almost 20 years.

His house was filthy, and a stench came out of the house and it smelled
horribly. The neighbors could not stand the smell anymore, so they summoned
the police officers to clear the place. The officers knocked down the door
and cleaned the house. There were small bags of money all over the house
that he had collected over the years.

The police counted the money, and they soon realized that the old man was a
millionaire. They waited outside his house in anticipation to share the good
news with him. When he arrived home that evening, he was met by one the
officers who told him that there was no need for him to beg any more as he
was a rich man now, a millionaire.

He said nothing at all; he went into his house and locked the door. The next
morning he woke up as usual, went to the subway, got into the train, and sat
at the street corner and continued to beg.

Obviously, this old man had no great plans, dreams or anything significant
for his life. We learn nothing from this story other than staying focused on
the things we enjoy doing, commitment.


We should remain true to our course; which may mean committing yourselves to
things that people around you would normally disapprove. Let nothing
distract us from being happy, let nothing else determine our fate, but
ourselves.

What makes us happy is what matters in the end, not what we acquire.

You want to be Happy Go to Mulla Nasruddin with all your money...........

A very rich man once wanted to become happy. He had tried all kinds of ways buteverything had failed. He went to many saints; nobody could help him.

Then somebody suggested, "You go to Mulla Nasruddin. He lives in a certain town - he is the only man who can be of some help to you."

The man went with a bag full of diamonds, and he showed the bag to Mulla Nasruddin who was sitting underneath a tree outside the town, resting under the sun.

And he said, "I am a very miserable man - I want happiness. I am ready to give anything for it, but I have not tasted even once what happiness is - and death is coming closer.

Can you help me? How can I be happy? I have all kinds of things that the world can give to me, yet I am unhappy. Why?"



Mulla looked at the man, and it happened so fast that the rich man could not understand what was happening. He just jumped on the man, took away the bag, and ran.



Of course the man followed, crying, shouting, "I have been cheated, robbed!"

Mulla knew all the streets of the town, so he was going zigzag, this way and that. And the rich man had never run in his life, and he was crying and tears were flowing down, and he said, "I have been robbed absolutely - that was my whole life's earnings. Save me, people! Help me!"



And a crowd followed. And by the time they reached Mulla, the Mulla had come back to the place where the rich man had found him. The rich man's horse was still standing there, Mulla was sitting under the tree. The rich man was crying, breathing hard. And Mulla gave the bag back to him.

The rich man said, "Thank God!" And such tears of joy, and such peace.



Mulla said, "Look, I have made you happy. Now you know what happiness is? This bag has been with you for years and you were unhappy. It had to be taken away from you."



Happiness is part of unhappiness. That's why happiness should not be the goal of your life, because if you want happiness you will have to remain unhappy. The unhappier you are, then only a few moments, few and far between, will be those of happiness.



Once you know the inner riches, then there is nothing which is comparable from the outside world. Once you know the inner bliss, then enjoyment is foolish, then all that goes on in the name of entertainment is foolish, stupid. It just falls down once you know the inner ecstasy. Then all that is known as happiness, joy, is nothing but deception. But not before — unless you have known the inner happiness you cannot say that, and if you say that then you will be in a greater deception.



Osho

LOVE

Love is there in the whole creation.
Everything is Love.
But you have never related in your life other than by name and form;
You could not love something which has no name or form.
The guru embodies-Buddha embodies,
Jesus embodies-that infinite Love with name and form.


In this entire creation there is a tendency to become one, To get back to one, because the two is painful.
From two, to go to one is the purpose of creation.
Everything wants to merge into something.
What is that? We call it Love.


Don’t be concerned and worried about money so much.
Be filled with love, be filled with gratitude,
get rid of the fear in you by being in love.


Sri Sri Ravishankar

THE THIRTEEN COMMANDMENTS OF LIFE

LIFE is 10 percent what happens to you and 90 percent how you respond to it !!!


THE THIRTEEN COMMANDMENTS OF LIFE

1 - The greatest handicap is fear,
2 - The best day is today
3 - The easiest thing is to err,
4 - The biggest mistake is to abandon
5 - The biggest flaw is selfishness,
6 - The biggest distraction is the work,
7 - The worst bankrupt is the discouragement
8 - The best teachers are the children,
9 - The greatest need is common sense,
10 -The lowest feeling, it's treason,
11 -The best gift is forgiveness,
12 -The greatest knowledge is that of self-
13 -The most beautiful thing in the world is friendship